Anger
There’s always something underneath it
Anger is often misunderstood. It can feel explosive or silent, outward or internal. Maybe your anger comes out in ways you regret—snapping at people you care about, holding grudges, or shutting down completely. Or maybe you’re someone who rarely expresses anger, but feels it simmering under the surface.
We offer anger therapy for adults in New York, New Jersey, and Florida, helping clients explore the roots of their anger, develop better tools for expressing it, and understand what it’s trying to communicate. Anger itself isn’t the problem—it’s how we relate to it.
What Does Anger Look Like?
Anger isn’t just yelling or losing control. It can show up in many forms, including:
Irritability, impatience, or frustration over small things
Passive-aggressive behavior or emotional withdrawal
Feeling on edge or like you’re “about to snap”
Chronic resentment or internalized rage
Shame or confusion about your own reactions
A sense that you’ve lost control of your emotional responses
Anger is often a protective response—covering pain, fear, or unmet needs. Therapy can help you understand where your anger is coming from and how to respond in ways that feel more aligned with who you are.
Small Ways to Regulate Anger (Right Now)
While deeper work happens in therapy, here are a few ways to start managing anger in the moment:
Pause before reacting. Step away, take a breath, count to 10—whatever gives you space
Name what you’re feeling underneath. Is there hurt? Fear? Disappointment? Anger is rarely just anger
Release tension physically. Go for a walk, squeeze a stress ball, or do something with your hands
Use grounding techniques. Try deep breathing, cold water, or focusing on your senses
Practice self-compassion. You’re not broken for feeling this way
These steps won’t “cure” anger—but they can help you respond, rather than react.
Our Approach to Anger Therapy
Anger is complex—and often deeply connected to past experiences, identity, and the environments we grew up in. In our work together, we’ll explore the roots of your anger without judgment, and build tools for managing it in ways that feel constructive, not destructive. My approach draws from:
Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) and REBT to examine thought patterns that fuel reactive cycles
Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) to build skills for emotional regulation, distress tolerance, and interpersonal effectiveness
Relational and trauma-informed therapy to explore how early relationships shaped your relationship with anger
Mindfulness-based strategies to create space between stimulus and response
Strengths-based work to help you tap into your values and emotional insight
Therapy isn’t about eliminating anger—it’s about learning to understand and work with it.
Online Anger Therapy That Fits Into Your Life
I offer virtual anger therapy for adults in New York, New Jersey, and Florida, providing a space where you can explore this part of yourself without shame. Whether your anger is outward or internal, whether it’s new or something you’ve carried for a long time, we can work through it—together.
Anger doesn’t make you bad.
If you’re ready to understand it instead of fighting it, we'd love to support you.